Friday, July 22, 2011

Best Friends Forever

There are many different levels of friendship but lets focus on the important. As women we are generally drawn to more intimate friendships rather than groups, so it’s natural for us to become involved in each others lives but when are we TOO involved? I believe in a set of serious rules when it comes to friendships, and unfortunately I have had to sacrifice a few friendships to get them.  There is a line when it comes to female relationships and often we don’t even know that the line is there. As soon as we become close to someone we as women almost become their sisters and it is here that we over involve ourselves in the lives of our friends. This, in my opinion is the reason for so many broken friendships. There is a certain kind of ownership that tends to creep into friendships and in a way it’s understandable because your best friend is the one person that you tell all your secrets to. But just because you know something about someone doesn’t give you the right to tell that person what to do or how they should do it. It’s a thin line between sympathy and empathy. It is good to care and to feel the others person’s pain and for that brief moment share with them whatever it is that they want to share with you, but it is really just a bubble entrance into this person’s world.  It’s really difficult to watch someone do something that you know is hurting them but haven’t you ever done something you shouldn’t have? And it’s no fun doing it when there is a disapproving super ego looming over you…
The best decision in this case is to simply advise how you would handle the situation and then securely fasten you seat belt for the ride. A good friend will bail you out of jail; your best friend will be sitting right there next to you.
Much love

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